CHANGE… I HATE CHANGE!
Sometimes in life we look forward to change – embracing it with full gusto and expectation. I like those times… times where you finally received the long waited promotion; or the new miracle baby you have waited years for is born; or you are moving into that home you have dreamed about for years. But… there are times that change comes and all we want to say is, “Oh, no you don’t! and oh, no I won’t.” These changes are often unexpected and very much unwanted. Changes that happen when someone unexpectedly goes to be with the Lord; or your company closes after you have worked there for years and years; or someone walks out of your life and you just cannot understand “why”. Though all these changes are “different”, they have one thing in common: they cause shifts in our personal universes. How we deal with these changes, good or bad, affects every area of our lives.
This past number of months has been a time of real adjustment for my little family. We lost six people in our lives to death (three especially close); had to deal with a very serious health situation; I have been on the road for days at a time; and we are facing a move. We have had the privilege of helping to open a new Teen Challenge center and church and are in the process of adjusting our lifestyles to all that those changes bring. In the midst of all this change, I had a choice to make; a choice I had to choose to make on a daily basis: “Do I trust that God is directing my steps? Do I trust God for wisdom and strength for every day? Do I really, I mean really know He has my best interests at heart? And finally, do I believe at a fundamental level that ALL things do work out for good for those who love God, for who are called according to His purpose? (Romans 8:28) Or, do I choose to sit around in a pity pot, feel sorry for myself; wring my hands, asking “why me, oh God?”; and pull my hair out worrying about things I have absolutely no control over.
I would be a liar if I said that in these past few months that I have enjoyed all the changes in my life. To be quite candid, some of the changes really rocked my little world. One of the people I lost was my best friend – a friend who was my prayer partner and armor barer; confidant; partner in crime (just ask our husbands); and the one person who loved me enough to keep it totally real with me. Though I would never call her back, I still miss her horribly. Just thinking about how much I miss her, makes me realize that there certainly are times I absolutely hate change! So what is the take away from this little discussion about “change”? As I thought about the changes, the following are a few things I picked up:
When change comes..
- I can choose to set my chin against change, saying “no way”; resist it and cause more pain in my life… or I can yield my will to God and trust Him to see me through; trust that He has a plan; and trust Him to grow me through the many changes in life.
- I can choose to “own” how I feel and deal with my emotions. It does not do me or anyone else in my life any good if I put on a fake smile when I am dying on the inside. I need to grieve if I need to grieve! I need to cry out to God for comfort during my storms. And it is okay to tell God that I really don’t understand, but I choose to NOT lean on my own understanding – that I choose to trust Him.
- I can choose to stand in what I know to be true! The Word says God will never allow anything more than I can bear. I also know that there are numerous seasons in our lives. If I am entering into a season full of wintry storms, I know that God will see me through to many Springs and times of Harvests. As trite as it may sound, “this too shall pass…”
- I can choose to isolate, or I can humble myself and allow the body of Christ to help me in my time of need.
- I can choose to ask God to teach me all the lessons I can learn through these times of change.
Whether I like it or not, change happens. Even if it is what I may consider “good change”, change is still an adjustment. Life never stays the same. We can expect the unexpected and know that we can never see what the future holds. BUT…. We know who holds our future! We can know that we know that there is one constant, and that constant is God. He will never leave or forsake us. He has a plan for each of our lives; and He truly does want to grant us the desires of our hearts. Change – again, sometimes I may not like it; but bring it! When change happens, it is an opportunity for growth and an opportunity for me to draw that much closer to my blessed Savior. #change,bringit!