“Friendship, Friendship, It’s All About Friendship”
Who we choose as friends, tells us a lot about ourselves!
Let’s stop and think for a moment… Can you think of some outstanding examples of “friends”? From the bible, my mind quickly goes to Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego; or Jonathan and David. Then there’s TV character friendships like Batman and Robin; Rocky and Bullwinkle… and my favorite, Lucy and Ethel. I think Lucy and Ethel are my favorites because they were so real. There was one episode where they were declaring their friendship by singing and dancing a song about friendship in a variety show. All was well until they accidentally bought the same dress. They both agreed to take back their dresses – neither of them did. They became aware that they were wearing the same dresses while on stage. They were instantly fuming mad, and began to tear the other’s dress apart. Made for great TV and of course, the two of them made up. Oh, if real like could be so simple.
The Bible is quite clear that good morals are corrupted by bad company, so it is easy to see that our “friendships” are extremely important. In fact, I believe that who we choose as friends, tells us a lot about ourselves! Those close to us will either lift us up or tear us down; will reinforce positive attributes or encourage us in the negative; and will either help to draw us closer to the Lord or will distract us from God’s purpose for our lives. Let me give you some examples: If I surround myself with those who always see the “glass half empty” – I will start to focus on the negatives in life instead of my many blessings. If I hang with those who walk in “fear”, I will begin to doubt and not walk by faith. I could have used examples of “running with a rough crowd, or partying with partiers to make my point. I didn’t on purpose. It is too easy to say, “Well, I don’t run with “those” kind of people”, so I must be okay. We need to see that it isn’t just the “wild childs” that we need to not run with. There are others who can be just as detrimental to our Christian walk.
There are lifestyles that may not get someone arrested, but nonetheless, they can still bring death into a person’s life. For Example:
- Run with a gossip… you are just as guilty as the person gossiping if you listen to it! And I believe that before you know it, you will be gossiping.
- Run with those who judge others – before you know it, you will be looking at others with a wary eye of judgement.
- Hang around with those who are addicted to “drama” – you will find yourself in the middle of battles that are not yours to fight.
- Try to keep up with the Jones – doing whatever it takes to be a part of their circle. You will find yourself making compromises you never intended to make.
I could keep going with the examples, but I can sum it all up by quoting an ol’ sayin’: “Run with dogs, you’ll get fleas!” Now the same is true with the “positive”relationships in our lives. If we surround ourselves with people who spur us onto a closer walk with the Lord, that is what will happen. If we spend time with people who challenge us to grow – we will grow. If we follow after true humble servants of God, we will find ourselves examining our lifestyles and, with the Lord’s help, get our lives lined up with the way the Word tells us to live. Paul challenges us to “follow him” as he follows Christ. I feel we should do that with all our relationships.
“Friendship, Friendship, It’s All About Friendship” May we fill our lives with those who draw us closer to our truest friend – the friend that sticks closer than a brother!